One of the hardest questions to answer in the dating world is how do I get a girlfriend? Many believe that the only way to attract a woman into engaging in an exclusive relationship is to go through a courtship stage. This archetypically includes picking a woman up for a date, paying for a meal or a movie, then driving the women home in order to increase your chances of receiving a kiss at the door. And, for the bold, you might expect an invitation upstairs. This process is outdated and although it is possible to have success this way, there is a much more efficient process. This article presumes you are looking for a relationship.

I am going to run you through the best way to find a girlfriend as well as dispel some myths about the process.

  1. Courtship is dead. Many women today love keeping men as friends to give them attention or make them feel good while she’s single or even while she’s seeing someone else. They pretend not to know you want to be with her while you’re at the movies or out at an expensive restaurant. Meanwhile you’re kicking yourself for not making the big move. This is why if you take things too slow you’re hurting your chances, not being respectful.
  2. If you want to have a relationship with a woman you have to get intimate! Women are much more likely to start a relationship with someone they are sleeping with than the guy taking them out for dinner dates. When you’re out with a women be sure to initiate physical contact so she can become more comfortable with your touch so that when you get the opportunity to go for a kiss it feels natural. This could be a hand on a shoulder to accentuate a point or on the small of the back as she walks through a door.
  3. See a lot of women. Many guys out there get this feeling that seeing more than one woman at a time is unethical or immoral. That’s only true if you lie about it. Women do this too; they date multiple guys as part of their screening process to find one they like. This is the best way to find the type of woman you like! This is a great way to increase your confidence as well, which is attractive to women.
  4. What to do on the “new” kind of date. Instead of going out for dinner plus a movie and paying for everything. Meet for a drink after 9 o’clock. Since you’re going to go on a couple of these a week this will help you find a great girl instead of settling for what’s right in front of you. The experience will also teach you what you like to have in a relationship.
  5. Know what you want and go for it. Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.” You have to know what you want so you can fail and improve. If you find a woman attractive go for it, get her number and have her meet you for a drink. Find out if you like her.


      Utilize these ideas over the next few weeks and watch your mentality about dating shift to a more successful approach! If you have any questions or stories you want to share email us at Remember, if you are already seeing a girl then these rules don’t apply. This is how to start the relationship.



Written by Trajan